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Toughness. The ability to recover from difficulties. Resilience.
This is not always easy. Especially when the problem is challenging and long-lasting. You can feel defeated, hopeless, tired, and want to give up. But giving up should never be a first option. True, at one point you have to learn to let go, but that’s only after you’ve tried everything possible to make the situation work. Once none of your efforts pan out then maybe it’s time to consider a different option, another angle, a new strategy.
In the meantime find the strength to endure by praying for courage and to have the right attitude. Find a confidant and reveal your concerns, share ideas and solutions. Take time for self-care, to rest, have fun. Contemplate on all that you’ve overcome and survived, all your blessings. Sing a joyful song loudly, go on a nature walk and enjoy the magnificent creation around you. You’ll find a measure of peace and clarity.
Challenges don’t define us. But the lessons we learn and the characteristics we develop from them often do. So learn resilience. Don’t give up quickly or give others your power. Resilience will help you cope with life’s challenges with hope -eager expectation, expectation of good . This way you’ll always be victorious.
“always remember just how rare you are – there is no one quite like you.”
I like this thought. I am uniquely and divinely designed with love. I am the sole prototype of me, I cannot be duplicated. I am fine as I am, a rare treasure.
That’s true of you too.
Self-love is important. When we love ourselves we take time to improve our character, our health, our intelligence…; we try to be the best version of ourselves. We don’t compare ourselves – our accomplishments, failures, circumstances- to the next person. We don’t let who the next person is or has define our worth. We modestly accept that we’re unique – we accomplish impressive things, yet we never think we’re better than the next person- who to is a unique prototype.
We don’t let people talk down to us, belittle us, or make us feel worthless. Even failures don’t define us – instead we learn and grow; we don’t fit into just any mold. We were created with a variety of attributes and characteristics that makes us unique. Embrace them and shine brightly in your own space. Move over, there’s enough room.
I took the day off today and tomorrow. I feel so happy. I’m learning the importance of self-care and being in tune with my mental, physical, and emotional needs. I woke up early still but an instant smile and a light- heartedness over flowed within me when I remembered I could use each hour in the next 48 hours the way I choose. I could be productive, I could be lazy, I could do something halfway in between.
That’s exactly what I did. I took time to handle things that are important to me and I took time to rest- to let my mind wander, then caught it right on time before I started thinking of responsibilities and work. I must say I felt a little guilty laying around not doing anything. But why should I feel guilt? I think we’re so programmed to always be on the go that we find it difficult to relax, to not have to be busy doing something every waking hour.
So I’m really at peace today. So grateful for being able to take time for me, to de-stress, to enjoy the sunshine, to use time how I want. I’m very happy today. I hope the same for you. I hope you take time to do you.
I heard this word today by a motivational speaker. She made the point that when you know you are enough you will stop the struggle to get more and learn to accept, allow, and attract all that adds to you instead of who/what subtracts from you. When you know you have enough the desperate drive to get more will be replaced by the comforting flow of gratitude.
I paused and reflected on this and I must say she made valid points. Thoughts that kept coming to mind after this were: rat race, perfectionism, being over spent, overspending, keeping up with the Jones, anxiety, frustration. None of that is appealing, or lead to happiness and peace.
When we’re content we’re happy. What defines your contentment? I value peace tremendously. If it means staying away from the malls and online shopping for months to cut back on financial stress then I do it. If it means getting together with a friend at my favorite gelato shop I do it. If it means buying a plane ticket to an exciting new destination…yup I do it. But if it also means saying no….I do that too. With time I’m learning to be content with enough. I have enough of what I need, I am enough as a person so I make a great friend/companion/mate…
But truly, when you learn contentment- being satisfied with the things you have without constantly focusing on what you don’t have- your joy increases. You’ll realize you have enough.
I could never pick just one as my favorite because there’s something captivating about each. Yellow is fun and whimsical; pink is soft and nurturing; red is bold and feisty, purple is royal; green is natural and calming while blue is energetic; black is confident and strong while white is pure…at least that’s how I view them. So I tend to say my favorite color is in the berry family, like fuchsia or magenta. They’re Striking yet not over bearing. So beautiful. But truly I love most colors. Color adds texture to your personality.
What color would you use to describe how you’ve been feeling?
I’d say lately I’ve been a mashup of many colors. With the pace of life- trying to get to and balance each responsibility- with life constantly changing and having to make adjustments, it all can be overwhelming. I balance that by making time for the more important things which include taking care of me. If I’m constantly expending myself then one day I’ll be all used up. What’s that line from that Bill Withers song, “keep on using me till you use me up”? That doesn’t work for me. And it shouldn’t work for you either.
Because we’re industrious and compassionate many of us tend to give our best to everyone else, like our employers and family, and what we have left for ourselves is just the rest. Keep going like that and eventually you’ll have nothing for yourself or others.
So take time to enjoy the colors of life. “Taste the rainbow”. You’ll be happier, and since joy is contagious you’ll inspire others to be colorfully happy too.
“Some people feel the rain, others just get wet.” – Bob Marley
It’s all in your attitude. What your mind thinks your heart feels. What your heart feels reflects in your speech, demeanor, and health.
These past few weeks have been tough. I allowed myself to be filled with negative thinking and overwhelmed with anxiety. Some problems I created in my mind- situations that really didn’t even exist, or wasn’t as bad as I made it out to be. I felt physically and emotionally drained, barely able to get on with my days. What I learned from this is the mind is very powerful, what we feed it will define what we get from it.
So to get over this slump I had to actively work at controlling my thoughts. Each time I was well up with anxious thoughts I prayed. I prayed for a calm heart and positive thoughts. Then I focused on something good, like the picture of my nephew being silly trying to eat his first cantaloupe 🍈. Other times I talked it out with a friend. Friends are blessings for sure. Exercising helps too, you release negative energy while taking care of your health. But I think what step must be taken is taking time to analyze the situation. Is it really as bad as you made it out to be? Oftentimes you’ll find the situation is workable. What can help you feel better is how you view it. If your thoughts are negative you’ll stress more and find you have little energy to make it through the situation. On the other hand if you put things in perspective you’ll find a bit of courage to carry on.
So don’t just get wet in the rain; feel it. Yes life is tough, but there are many blessings to be had if we appreciate the little things- like the rainbow that came out after the rain. Focusing only on bad things will rob you of joy. You can’t live fully without joy. Continue to count your blessings and make each day count.
“Courage is the most important of all the virtues because without courage, you can’t practice any other virtue consistently.”
― Maya Angelou
What’s the most courageous thing you’ve done?
When you’re afraid what do you do to regain power and confidence?
Do you face your fears or do you get up and run as fast and far away from them?
If you run, won’t the day come when you can no longer run? End of the road, so to speak, so you’ll have to do something? Will procrastinating really help?
I’m thinking no. Running only prolongs the problem and builds a stream of anxiety that gets deep, dense, dark. I bet you the problem creeps into your mind throughout the day. So wouldn’t it be better to deal with it as soon as possible? I’m one to avoid dealing with a challenge for a while. Sometimes I have to make sure when I’m ready to face the situation I’m in a heathy place physically, emotionally and mentally. Then when time comes for me to deal with it I come from a place of courage and clarity in order to make appropriate changes, decisions.
When I don’t have courage I have to ask for it, I have to pray for it. Along with courage comes a measure of self-confidence. This confidence can help you rise from a place of fear and inaction to having the fortitude to face the problem and work through it with the tools we’ve been given: our minds, heart, body, time, connections… we can only use what we have. So just always do your best in each situation. giving up, running away, cowering is not the solution . Trust yourself enough to be bold, to act, then to move on… even if initially the results are less than favorable.